![]() Many serious studies seem to claim extremely weak female libido. “The female with the rarest exception is less eager than the male.” SN depiction of women boils down to prostitution: Women exchange sexual services for access to resources Denying it comes at a cost.Įxtended receptivity and concealed ovulationĪccording to SN, male’s only way to ensure his paternity is sexual exclusivity Humans are extremely sexual, and whether we acknowledge it or not, the evolved yearnings are there “and clamor for our attention”. A Closer Look At the Standard Narrative of Human Sexual Evolution It just implies multiple ongoing sexual relationships. ![]() Promiscuity is now a derogatory word, but it does not mean random sex with strangers. Our closest relatives, chimps and bonobos, practice multi-male, multi-female mating relationships. When sexual passion runs dry, can the only “moral” option be to just accept it or to leave your loved partner (and potentially family)? “Modern love’s central anxiety the expectation that romance and sexual attraction can last a lifetime of coupled togetherness despite much evidence to the contrary.” So many of these false assumption lead to unrealistic expectations, frustration, and disappointment. “Why the electrified high-security razor-wire fence to contain a kitty-cat?”Īccepting that women enjoy sex at least as much as men is important. Our current predominant “understanding” of sexual evolution is based on such a myth, leading to norms almost everyone thinks we should follow but that fit very few of us.Įvolution doesn’t make things “better”, just better adapted to the current environment (but that can change).Įvolutionary psychology applies the same thinking to our behaviors.įemales are thought to have a low libido, very sparingly looking for sexual pleasures, yet we heap scorn on women who are freely sexual and invented all sorts of ways (historically) to keep female libido in check. ![]() “Flinstonization”: Project our modern assumptions on prehistory to come up with myths that seem plausible. We also believe that prehistoric life was mostly short and painful, and sex extremely brutish. This story seems to fit a lot of our preconceptions and neatly seems to explain a lot of behavior. Standard story: Men try to spread their cheap and plentiful sperm as wide as possible while women protect their expensive scarce eggs for the right, genetically superior male. Yet we assume that some things are just naturally “right” or “wrong” to eat. What is considered delicious in one culture is seen as revolting in another. Previously parental effort diffused into group. ![]() And for the first time in our history, paternity became a main concern. With agriculture, private property became norm. Pre agriculture humans were sexually very casual, usually having several ongoing sexual relationships at a time.įorager societies extremely egalitarian, sharing everything. “A catastrophe from which we have never recovered” If yes, they “mate”, forming a long term bondīut both look for fling, she with guys genetically superior to him, he with anyoneīut while this seems evolutionarily plausible, it’s not! Just a product of western culture.įor humans, everything changed with agriculture. They assess each other: Is she young, without much previous sex/kids but able to bear lots of children? Is he wealthy or will be and can support a family? “Contemporary culture misinterprets the link between love and sex.” Marriage is crumbling and more and more people are diagnosed with sexual dysfunction, while anything non-monogamous is still seen like crazy, a taboo. And our ancestors were highly sexually active with no such notion as monogamy. Evolutionarily speaking we are just apes, no different from chimps, bonobos, etc.
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